Meeting Mr. Wonderful

Mr. Wonderful and I have only been married 8 months. We met a little over two years ago (May 26th 2006 to be exact). I had recently discovered Myspace and had reconnected with quite a few old friends. I was looking at different profiles and came across Mr. Wonderful’s. He had a picture of this awesome tattoo. I love tattoos on men and women. I wrote him a quick note saying that I love the tattoo. He wrote back saying that he didn’t actually have the tat yet, but was getting it shortly and that he thought I was “sorta” cute.

That’s how we started. We chatted back and for the long Memorial Day weekend. We agreed to meet for coffee one afternoon the following week. I honestly didn’t think that anything would come of it. He was super nice on the computer, but I wasn’t going into the meeting with any expectations. I had been burned to many times before.

We met at a local coffee shop and sat outside on the little patio. Before either one of us realized it, 3 hours had passed. He was as funny in person as he was on the computer. He was kind and thoughtful. He was a gentleman. To top it off he was really good looking. I knew that I would like the chance to get to know him better.

Lucky for me, he felt the same way. We spent a lot of time talking on the phone, texting and seeing each other when our schedules allowed.

What I didn’t realize when I first met Wonderful was how married he still was. He had been separated for a few months before we met, but hadn’t really discussed divorce to much. His ex was still stringing him along. And to his credit, he didn’t want to hurt his kids. I had assumed that the divorce was imminent. It would actually be a full year before the divorce was final.

That year was hard. Wonderful and I had a few rocky patches. When we had been dating a couple of months, he freaked out and broke up with me. We got back together a week or so later. Right after the first of the year (2007) we broke up again. Once again it only last a week or so. Then in April we had a huge fight and broke up, for what I really thought was forever. I actually think that I was hurting as worse from that break-up then when my first marriage ended. Even though we were “broken up” we stayed in contact with each other at least once a week. I kept catching myself seeing something in the store that I thought he would like.

Just after what would have been our first anniversary, Wonderful asked me if I would be willing to give us another shot. He was missing me as much as I was missing him. His divorce was in the final days of the waiting period, and he wanted to be with me.

I have to say I was a little leery. I loved him more then I had ever loved a man, but there had been a lot of hurt back and forth. I decided to give us one last shot.

I am so glad I did. We got back together and things have been terrific since then. When we first met, we had agreed that we would date at least a year and a half before we would get married. We made it almost to the day.

These 8 months have been trying for both of us. We have gone from both of us having our kids on a part-time basis to having mine full-time and his a little more then half time. We have gone through Oldest Munchkin losing her mind and doing some really bad stuff. We have gone through my father dying and my ex being deployed with the military. We have gone through two hospital stays for Wonderful in a two week period. We are going through all of it and getting along great.

Sending that email was the best thing I had done in years. I am forever grateful that I sent it and that he wrote back.